Appreciation and gratitude are often lacking in many workplaces. This is really confusing to me because they are free. So why are they missing and what is the problem that we have with this very simple concept?
It’s been my observation that’s it’s often a cultural thing. We believe that people have roles and responsibilities to achieve as an expectation, so why should they be thanked for what they are paid to do anyway?
Another reason is that in business, we are programmed to look for problems so that we can fix them. Identify what’s going wrong and then make it right. For this reason we are constantly in a negative mindset. Negative mindsets and positive comments don’t fit well together. Also business is seen to be very serious. This stimulates our sympathetic nervous system in readiness for “fight or flight”. This hardly creates an affirming energy or environment.
Tip Number 7. Show more appreciation and gratitude
People crave recognition. Acknowledging their very presence first thing in the morning can work wonders for someone’s self esteem. They also enjoy receiving praise for anything or any effort that someone else other than them thinks is worthy. And finally there is great satisfaction in the response of such acknowledgement.
For example, a conversation when you see someone for the first time in the day could go like this. “Morning Lisa. Nice to see you looking so chirpy.” Reply. “Thanks for noticing, I feel GRRREAT.” Instead of “You’re late!” Reply. “Tell someone who cares!” Get the idea ha ha ha.
Here are 5 simple ways to show appreciation and gratitude.
1. Start your meetings by each person sharing something good that has happened to them. This can be outside the Agenda as an icebreaker if you wish. Go around the table and one by one ask them the best thing that’s happened to them this week.
2. As they do so, make sure that everyone claps. Clapping at even the smallest thing, stimulates the acupuncture pressure points in the hands, and wakes the body up. It will also be accompanied by comments such as “Well done”. “I like that”. “Good job”.
3. Positive psychology is merely looking at things from a glass half full perspective. If you want to change a person’s mindset, then have a look at the company’s values and culture and see how that feeds it.
4. Self-esteem comes from outside as well as from within. While it’s not always easy to change it from within, just acknowledge how a person looks and give them a compliment. This will change their internal voice.
5. Say thank you, with the emphasis on “you”. This indicates that you are not appreciating the act, but the individual who did it. If you want to take it one step further, then add “soooooo much” to the end of it.
About the Author
Merv Neal is an ex TEC member and has been a TEC speaker since 2010. As a Director of Holistic Services Group, he specializes in assisting businesses of all types and sizes to create and then implement their Workplace Wellbeing programs. For more information you can contact Merv on 0408 552269